Five Minute Friday - Stereotypes

I just thought ill take five mins this Friday evening to talk about something that's been on my mind a while, Stereotypes.

We live in a society that's quick to Stereotype people based on just about anything like physical appearance, color, race, religion, sex, education. And media still plays a huge role in contributing to this mindset. And being a part of this society we have, i'm sure been both victims and predators at some point in time. One of the most common one is the 'dumb blonde" which we all have heard or probably even used at some point in time.

Yeah? Now you get where i'm heading. I'm no saint i know i have said stuff i should not have in this context more than just a few times. But that's the whole point of growing up, right? Learn, mature, live better. This is me doing that.

Careful research (Google searches can be called that, right?) i found that most of these common Stereotypes we oh so casually use have ABSOLUTELY NO FACTS to back them. Not feeling so cool about those name callings now, are we?

What can we do now? Stop throwing them at people? YES. Because, honestly throwing the moral compass aside lets just think logically shall we? One Stereotype that comes to mind immediately, is the one that says Only men think about SEX a looot. Not true, women are no longer the type than worry about clean plates and clothes. Trust me, i would know!

Some common lame one i found at THIS site that will make you smile :)

Men

• Men are stronger and more aggressive.
• Men are better at sports.
• Men hate reading.
• Men always have an "I don't care" attitude.
• Men are tough.
• Men are thickheaded.
• Men like cars.
• Men wear whatever is clean.
• Men usually work in messy places.
• Men like car or porn magazines.
• Men brag about intimacy.
• Men take too many chances.
• Men always lose all arguments against girls.

Women

• Women always smell good.
• Women take forever to do anything.
• Women are more brilliant than men.
• Women are always moody.
• Women try to work out problems while men take immediate action.
• All women like the color pink.
• All women like dolls.
• Women become cheerleaders.
• Women take 2 hours to shower.
• Women hog the bathroom.
• Women love mirrors.
• Women like make-up.
• Women are fussy about their hair.
• Women like fashion magazines.
• Women are discrete about intimacy.
• Women do not drive well.
• Women never take chances.
• Women always talk too much on the phone.
• Women actually use only 5% of what's in their purse. Everything else is junk.

Be wise, don't assume.. Lets use our God given brains together, to bring change and make this world a better place :)

'To life in all its real glory :)

Hello Blog world!

I've been MIA and it was quite intentional. I'm going through like a weird phase in life.. Its been a mixture of high's and lows. Lets start with the high's, shall we?

I got my first job. Its the second interview i sat for and after like a long wait, with the whole process sprawled  over like a month i finally got it :D
Its a job in my line of interest and study and oh so exciting! I start end of this month, on the 30th of june.. and i'm super excited, i can't wait to get started!

In the meanwhile my boat's been tossing and turning in this journey called life.. I seem to be stuck in a storm that's refusing to pass. There were moments my boat almost toppled, there were also moments i thought the storm has almost passed.. But here i am back at the heart of it.

The emotions and feelings are overwhelming! I feel so weak and vulnerable at the same time strong and determined. I wanna build walls and not let anyone in, yet i'm waiting for that one person to forcefully make their way in and break my walls. I wanna stop believing in a lot of things, at the same time i want someone who gives me no choice but believe.

Is this even normal? Is this how growing up is gonna feel? i don't know. But nobody can really give you answers to these questions.. i don't think people even understand exactly. The answers lie within and nobody gets you like you do. Its a crazy crazy complicated life :)

I just wanna stop feeling so restless and i don't know..

In the midst of all this, i had a tiny vacation to this beautiful place called coorg.

Here are a few grainy pictures i clicked!

It was such e refreshing break from the hustle and bustle of my city life!

Have a grand week ya'll :)

To each, his own.

I don't really feel like writing today, so i'm just gonna go ahead and upload a butt load of pictures to show you all i have been upto! Go ahead and draw your own conclusions from it..

A picture can sometimes say wayy more than words can. :)

A girl i know - Her side of the story.

I was once this girl who thought she was strong, didn't need anyone and lived in a small bubble. I was like a frog in the well, my world was the people around me, and i was content with the little i had in life.

I never wanted to get married, and i went around telling people i'm gonna live rich and live alone.

And then came the twist in the plot. He walked in, made me fight for everything i believed showed me a glimpse of how much more i could have and i fell in love.

The same girl who was content, knew what she could get, she wanted more. She wanted to get married someday, make babies.. Build a house and maybe even give up her career for her family.

I was now the girl that built castles in air. From the wedding dress, to the kinda house (down to the detail of number of rooms) the guests to be invited, everything was planned.

Then, this guy i now considered "mine" helped another girl get a glimpse of what she should have  just like he did with me. And guess what? She fell for him too (No surprise there. HE'S HOT!)

The only difference this time was he didn't want to reject this girl right away, because she was beautiful both inside and out. He said she deserved better, and there was no way i could not disagree with that.

But it hurt, to hear him talk of pleasing another girl. To hear him think and consider her pierced my heart. First it was overwhelming sadness, then frustration, and then anger and finally self destruction. I tore down all the dreams i built.

I passed every fantasy, every dream through a shredder. I was in that mode till there was nothing left to lose. It was satisfying and painful both at once. Most of all it was cruel to him. Because he built all those castles with me too.

I sometimes honestly wish i had a normal guy and a normal relationship, but then in the same breath i am fully aware that i would have ever fallen in love with him if he was "normal". And i would never trade "being in love" for anything.

So right now he's forgiven me for going into self destruct and almost destroying us, but he's not forgotten it.

We still have a lot of healing to do. We are not who we used to be, and it scares me, because now what we have anybody can have. What we had then, was magical. The other woman in love with him is still around, its just there. We are not tossing and poking that boat anywhere around for now.

He knows i love him. Both he and i both know she likes him more than a friend still too. Everything is out on the table, no under currents, no hidden feelings.

Isn't the truth supposed to make things easier? From when the truth about her feelings was out, its only been a downhill.

I have a knot in my throat as i type this, and its threatening to spill out through my eyes. I wish there was a solution to this. A solution where no one got hurt. But we haven't gotten that smart yet.

Young love.. Can't live with it, can't live without.

Love,
Lonfused girl.

Confused.

Hello there!

Have you all had a time in your life too where you wished you didn't grow up, at-least not so fast? I'm in that phase now and i kinda hate. I hate how i have to make "responsible" decisions some of which will determine something as HUGE as which way i'm gonna go in life.

So right now i'm confused if i should study or work. Like till yesterday i was convinced i'm gonna work a year or two and then resume studies as most of the colleges i wanna go to are harping on work experience. But then yesterday i got a call from a college i applied for, to come for round 2 of the selection process.

[That's my single most ugliest drawing. I think my drawing capabilities drop from like a 7 to like a 1/2 when i'm confused.]

I didn't even consider it seriously because honestly i'm quite content with the job offer i got from a reputed company via campus recruitment. But now i can't help but think will i regret it all my life if i don't show up at this college for round 2.

I'm sure of one thing i wanna finish my MBA in the next 5 years. But being sure of that is not getting me anywhere.

I can't really toss a coin on this one. See, this is exactly what i mean by i don't like growing up. I can't help but wonder, can you live a life without regrets in reality. I mean at some point aren't we all faced with a choice like this. Will our decision no matter how wholehearted leave us with no regrets? Is no regrets a reality or theortical concept thrown around?

Decision time.

LOSING IT.

What am i talking about losing? Dignity. YES, you heard me alright!
Soo, this happend the other day, on my way to college and ijust HAD TO share it :)

Those of you who have been to India or live here, you know what its like to travel by a public bus.I can't decide if its more annoying of funn! So first of the bus i travel in, looks like this..

On a regular day to college it kinda looks like this on the outside!

and like this on the inside..

So when you travel in it, with the amazing pot hole filled roads we have here.. you have to end up holding on to dear life.. and you dont really care, what or how your holding it.
And that is exactly where your dignity goes for a toss.

I find myself in positions like this.

I could go on all nightt.. but its so crazy annoying to look for pictures.. and find nothing relevent! Anyway, soo that's how it looks, even worse sometimes. I look like everything from a dancer in a bar, to a frightened cat.

Its fun, and even more hilarious to watch people sliding and slipping around every time, the driver hits the pedals too hard! Travelling in a bus in India should be on everyone's bucket list! It'll be a experience that'll never be forgotten.

I hope the world herer is still skipping around happily.. I know its a vday and a whole lot more since i got here! We so need more than one day to show love! But its amazing to get on here and read about all the wonderful dates, successful proposals and the many flowers and chocolates!

A precious friend told me this sunday "I felt like falling in love this valentines day".. Don't we all :)

DISCLAIMER: The pictures used are for representative use only.. and do not belong to me or anyone I know! I do not claim any kind of ownership or rights over them, they belong to their rightful owners.

My Day Out.

How long has it been since i first got here? I really dunno. Well, i've come on here a couple of times in just this past week alone.. written a line.. stared at the screen till no end, logged out and continued with life.

I don't know what to write about, i don't know if i feel like writing too. My days are getting better.. but life is still being a scramble. Between looking up colleges, different options of study, applying for jobs and checking out companies.. I'm surprisingly having quite a lot, okay maybe not lot.. but I'm having fun.

Okay, for those of you who remember i live in Hyderabad.. we have this huge big industrial every January that i used to go to ever since i was a kid. It was like a tradition in my family. So this year, out of the blue i decided i needed to do it, and i did. And was it as fun as it usually is? HELL YES.

[An amazing photographer friend let me use these beautiful pictures that were clicked that day. Are they the coolest or WHAT?]

I went with some really good friends..  the first we do when we enter after the regular security check, and me mumbling about how meaningless it is, is buy popcorn and walk around and just take everything in. Four odd years didn't change a thing.

                                       [That's kinda how i looked, feeling all pleased with myself]

and then, the walked continued with occasional halts to point and laugh at someone or something or it just ended in one of us buying something totally random.

And then we spotted this,

and just had to buy it even though i was pretty full alreadyy.. so we did and i was supposed to wait till we find a found a good spot to click, but i didn't, so i don't have a picture with cotton candy now :(

Sooo we kept walking till we arrived at the one place i was searching for right from the moment i entered.

okay, so the picture might be a slight over exaggeration.. But it was insane fun.. we first went on the Giant wheel, they call it that for all the right reasons.. after i had done screaming and begging everyone to stop it,  as i waked out i thought the worse is over..

But for some weird reason i was wrong. I used my two legs to go to this..

and buy tickets for thiss..

And i still cant decide if it was the best or worst part, okay fine, who am i kidding, IT WAS SOOO MUCH FUN!!.. This picture doesn't even come close. It was insane, the rush was something else. Honestly? 90% of the time i was on it, i was thinking its too early to die, im like not even married yet  i haven't eaten frogs yet or something. I was screaming the whole time it was mostly "OH MY GOD" in different tones and pitches.. and a few other things I'm hoping no one else heard.

well, i came back home with an amazing pair of shoes and a bag full of memories. It was my day out, something i needed and it was all and more i expected it to be.

[DISCLAIMER: I do not claim ownership to pictures 2,3,4,6. They belong to their rightful owners and are used only as a representation here.]

Metamorphosis

That's quite a big word spell :P
Basically, change. That's what it literally means to me. In this ever changing crazy amazing sometimes, depressing life of mine.. there is so much change happening. I'm metamorphosing. I know that this term is generally used to indicate growth and positive development in animals.. i'm using it in a different sense today. 

There is so much happening i'm just like "Hey! Not so fast, life! I need a min to breathe" or something! Its insane how much a year old can take in a day.. Honestly, i'm left panting and puffing at the end of each day. 

And i hate it. You ask, why? Because i hate not being in control, esp when it comes to my life. I have/had everything planned.. and some little thing decides to take a detour.. annnddd there comes crashing down my whole properly thought of life plan.

Its hard.

But it has taught me so much. You know what i feel? Everyone should go through one life altering mess.. why? Because this is where you see whom you can actually trust. this is the point in my life where i saw who can put aside everything and be there, by everything i don't just mean one evening or one day literally everything.

This is the place i saw the people who cared, but were too busy to do anything about it. And can i be real honest? it hurt so freaking much. As much i would like to say i don't really care, and it doesn't matter.. i just can't. Because it mattered

You know what i needed most in my weakest moment? Not someone who told me i'm strong enough to get through this.. but just one person to tell me they'll hold my hand and go through this with me. One person to tell me they'll be right there to give me a push when i felt like giving up.

And forever grateful to Have not one but quite a few people around to help me. But i got help from sources unexpected. The people i always thought will come through to me showed me the door.. and that was hard to accept.

Anyway, lesson learnt, tears dried :)

OKAY, too much serious talk! Wanna hear something yum? Today is PIE DAY! :D

Exactly! put your aprons on, or at least call a baker friend and get yourself a yummy piece of pie todaay to celebrate :D

Which is worse, failing the biggest test of your life or being tested by a loved one?

Now imagine both happening in the same week. Im not being dramatic, but it was devastating.. Dreams crashed, tears splashed.. Things changed.

Im a new me now. Stronger, less vulnerable.. And more cool! :P
Like now, i tell people "Oh that's all you've got? i've had people throw worse at me B)"

Jokes apart, its been hard. And its even harder to admit that its been hard.

But life's been good.. Things are getting better, im learning to accept certain things.. Learning to let go of hurt.. Learning to stop being bitter.. And learning to not let failure go a complete waste :)

Soo yes, i still have tears just a blink away, i still feel the pain.. and the hurt.. And still feel loserish, atleast 20times in a day..

But i do have my beautiful moments, i still smile, i still love my God and above all, i still have hope.

So, this is to losing, and being tested.

Always remember, when you lose something, it teaches you so much than a win could :)

Much love,